Wednesday, April 1, 2009

A big day in our adoption community.

I want to shout out to Christine and Doug, who received their I-600 Approval today. It is still my secret wish that their process starts flying by ridiculously fast, so that we can meet in Seoul, and introduce our beautiful sons, Rubin and Spencer.  It could still happen, right?!

Dave, Theo, Emmett, and I also received a special adoption delivery this afternoon... 

(drum roll please.)






Our I-171 made it's way to our mailbox.
This form is the Notice of Approval of Relative Immigrant Visa Petition. In layman's terms... USCIS officially grants us permission to work with the United States Consulate in Korea in obtaining a visa for Rubin (our relative!!) In short, his visa has been approved.  As soon as it's issued in Seoul, we will get a travel call, and Rubin can come home.  

From what I can tell, it has been taking about one month from the date of approval for the visa to be issued. Perhaps my mom and I will be in Korea for Mother's Day... meeting my third son, her ninth grandchild.

Is anyone else floored by how quickly our adoption process has moved??  It was just last August that Dave and I made the definite decision to pursue an adoption.  Our first informational meeting was on September 18th of 2008.  Emmett was just shy of 15 months old, and Dave and I wanted to get the ball rolling, hoping to keep a 2-3 year age difference between all of our children.  We were certain that bringing our baby home from Korea could take... forever. We were anxious to get started.

What was I thinking? This baby boy, in so many ways, was made for us.  

I know how blessed I am. I've never had to wait.  With both Theo and Emmett, it seemed that Dave and I had to do no more than simply think about getting pregnant and (ta-da!) it was done.  Why did I think that this baby boy would come to us any differently?  Shouldn't I have known that it would happen, lickitty-split?

I say this with some trepidation, as I know how many women in my adoption circle have waited so much longer than I have. I know that many of them would trade places with me, in this process, in a heartbeat.  But I'm a little overwhelmed right now. I'm a little freaked out about how fast things have moved.  Just as I worried in the weeks before Theo and Emmett were born, I'm afraid that we aren't ready
What size is Rubin wearing? 
What will he like to eat? 
How will Emmett feel about me leaving, again, and coming home with a baby brother?
I am going to have two one-year-olds, for 19 days!!!
Does Theo seriously want to share his bedroom with the baby?
And how the hell am I going to fit a crib in there with that boat of a bunk bed?
How badly is Rubin going to miss his foster mother, 
and am I going to be able to comfort him and assure him 
and will he fall in love with me, too?

So very soon, we'll be five, too...
We're ready to brave the rain.



9 comments:

Angie K. said...

Em,

After the long and hectic day of traveling we have had, your post brought a big smile to my face. Thank you.

Christine @ 12,450miles said...

CONGRATS!!! Um, Em... it *could* happen... We could be there in five weeks if we continue this pace! :-)
How amazing would _that_ be!?

Now, you couldn't possibly be talking about me could you?! I wish my slow pace on no one... I truly hope that everyone would fly through like you guys did, and not at he pace I crept through at.

And my parting thought:
I am officially freaking out now. I need to get my bum in gear!

Greta Hanson said...

Congrats Emily! I have loved to read your story unfolding, and am so excited to continue to read the next chapter!

Becca said...

Chills and Tears my darling.
So excited for you.

MAN this HAS gone fast.
I remember when we were on our run...that beautiful Fall day and you told me. That might as well have been last WEEK for how fast it's gone.
You're ready! You KNOW this. You have two boys...you're an AMAZING mother....You GOT this. Don't fret. Keep you eye on the prize :) Love you.

Anonymous said...

Yeah!! That was rocket fast! Ours took 10 months to the day from start of homestudy to the day we got Alex - what a whirlwind.
Don't worry about the rest - it will fall into place - and the other boys will LOVE having a new baby brother! And Rubin WILL love you too!

erin BEAVER said...

Wow. This really has gone so quickly. All of the "technical" questions you have about Rubin will melt away as soon as you have him in your arms and he's finally at home with you and the rest of his new family. Your photos are so beautiful!

dana said...

Everything will fall into place. The boys will adore Rubin and he will adore you all. Promise.

Norbyah said...

I know we've had this conversation before. Family is so much more than blood. Paper work. Visas. You know it first-hand with the beautiful family you came from. It starts with love - and you guys have plenty of that in your home. I agree with Erin - those worries and questions will disappear once he's home with you. You'll know what to do.

I remember our facebook chat secret reveals. First me being pregnant. Then you deciding to adopt. Then announcing your referral. I will look for a chat box to pop up announcing when you receive your "call." It won't be long now.

Love you all.

xo

janiece said...

It will all work out. And I can tell you as the mom of 3 all within 15 months--its crazy nutty hair pulling frantic at times--but I love it. It's so much fun! And how could Rubin NOT love you???
And there's lots of tricks to making furniture fit!

Our Adoption Timeline

  • December 23, 2009- Adoption Finalized.
  • May 7th, 2009- Family circle complete in Madison.
  • May 6th, 2009- Mama's got Rubin in Seoul.
  • May 4th, 2009- meet Rubin
  • April 23rd, 2009- Visa Interview
  • April 22nd, 2009- TRAVEL CALL!!
  • April 14th, 2009- Packet 3
  • April 7th, 2009- NVC out
  • April 1st 2009 (no foolin')- I171 received
  • March 9th, 2009- I171H received
  • February 27th, 2009- progress report from SWS
  • February 24th, 2009- Fingerprinted at USIS
  • February 19, 2009-Rubin's legals arrive in state.
  • February 16, 2009- mailed referral acceptance.
  • February 12, 2009- received referral paperwork.
  • January 29, 2009- verbally accepted referral
  • January 27, 2009- received unofficial referral.
  • January 20, 2009- I600A received and filed with the Dept. of Homeland Security
  • January 16, 2009- submitted I600A
  • January 12, 2009- homestudy document complete.
  • January 12, 2009-received Foster Home Licensing
  • December 22, 2008- A.I.A.A. director approves application, establishes our file, and requests our homestudy documents from J.D.
  • December 5, 2008- submitted Foster Licensing application.
  • November 25, 2008- A.I.A.A. accepted official application.
  • November 15, 2008- submitted formal application to A.I.A.A.
  • November 13, 2008- final homestudy meeting.
  • November 12, 2008- autobiographies completed.
  • October 30, 2008- second homestudy meeting.
  • October 22, 2008- received formal application from A.I.A.A.
  • October 14, 2008- first homestudy meeting.
  • October 1, 2008- submitted pre-application to Americans for International Adoption and Aid
  • September 25, 2008- submitted application packet to Adoption Advocates, Inc.
  • September 18, 2008- first meeting with social worker (J.D.)
  • August 2008- decided to adopt

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